I wanted to share a story with all of you (and procrastinate my homework..) about a small event that happened to me the other day while I was working with a client. It made me realize something that I think is very important for girls and women of all ages to own- CONFIDENCE.
I was helping a client the other day at work, a middle-aged women (who shall remain nameless). She was looking for a fun and fashionable outfit for her upcoming class reunion. I was having a bit of an off day, I had overslept my alarm, worked late the night before, and was on day 8 of a work stretch. Since I had over slept that morning I didn’t get time to shower. I had tossed my hair up into a messy top-knot, went for minimal makeup, and threw on a pair of black leggings, a black oversized long sleeve dolman t-shirt, a simple silver chain necklace, my “cool girl” boots that make me feel like a badass, and ordered a quad venti caramel macchiato at Starbees. This is my go-to comfort outfit for days when I need to just get through the day.
She had come in to the shop around 1:30 in the afternoon and I was off at 6, so knowing my shift was more than half way done and I was on vacation for a week starting the next day, I was in a silly mood. My client was telling me that she is a mother of two, and had sent her kids off to camp that morning so this was the first time all summer she had time for herself. We talked about her personal style and what type of look she wanted to project at her reunion. She was telling me that she used to be very fashionable in high school, but she has gained quite a lot of weight since then (which we all do as we grow older). As we started our search for the perfect outfit and chatted about life I began to really enjoy spending time with her, she had the most beautiful outlook, and such a charismatic positive attitude towards everything, it was just so much fun.
When I had her describe the types of outfits that she had in mind while we were out shopping she was very specific, which makes my job easier most of the time-but in this case it was the opposite. Body image dressing is something that I am very passionate about, so when I got her to try on an outfit exactly like she had described to me when she came in, and she started criticizing herself it made my heart heavy. I had spent most of the afternoon laughing and joking and thinking what a beautiful person she was that it felt so sad that someone so amazing could feel so bad about themselves. We spent some time talking about body shape and how those types of outfits didn’t work on her anymore like they used to when she was younger, and I showed her what types of sillouettes would be more flattering now. And then explained exactly why they worked on her. Getting past body image to the point where you can look in the mirror and feel beautiful is extremely difficult. But we had a good chat in the fitting rooms and a Hallelujah moment happened where we had a break through and it all made sense.
All day long she had been calling me “Fancy Face” – a nickname she had given me. When I finally asked at the end of the afternoon why she called me that, she said it was because she thought that I looked so naturally beautiful I could have thrown on an evening dress and fit into even the most fancy of places. I just burst out laughing. I felt so gross and ugly that I thought that was just ridiculous for her to say. She asked me why I thought it was so funny, and while I explained to her she then started laughing as I told her that what I felt about my self in that moment is exactly what she was feeling about herself. We had an amazing talk about body image and how to own it, and how important inner beauty is, and how much confidence portrays in our daily lives.
She ended up leaving with a super fun, fashionable, and realistic outfit for her reunion. And had the biggest smile on her face because all she really needed was a little reminder that she was a beauty regardless of what outfit she had on!
After she left I got to thinking about how we drive ourselves crazy from the pressures of impressing other people, or the thought that we need to look like the models in fashion magazines and how silly it is.. Women should feel comfortable in their own skin no matter what shape or size they are. As long as they love their life, and have a smile on their face that’s all that matters. Every woman is beautiful in her own way!
“Happy girls are the prettiest” – Audrey Hepburn
Remember lovies, no matter what life throws you, or how you’re feeling, keep your head up. You’re beautiful. And that’s a fact.
“Fancy Face” Miss Hailey Christine